Women Can’t Afford to Lead the Old Way Anymore
- Elin Skjelbred
- Aug 20
- 4 min read
Not long ago, a case hit the headlines about a woman in leadership accused of failing the people she was meant to serve.
Panic in the municipality, officials scrambling, reputations on the line. A female leader condemned as “bad,” accused of failing children and families.
I don’t know this woman. I only know what the media tells us, and we all know — the media rarely shares the whole truth.
But I do know this: When women step into leadership carrying unhealed wounds, heavy conditioning, and the pressure to survive in systems built on fear, they are set up to fail.
Not because they’re broken.
Not because they’re incapable.
But because they’ve been forced to lead from their fracture instead of their frequency.
And when leadership comes from fracture, harm is inevitable.
Control replaces care.
Silence replaces truth.
Blame replaces responsibility.
Hostility replaces humanity.
Fear replaces love.
This isn’t a leadership problem.
It’s a frequency problem.
The Collapse of the Old Way
The old way of leadership is collapsing because it was built on fracture.
It rewards disconnection, blame, and control — and then wonders why families, children, and communities lose trust.
To name it clearly:
Old paradigm leadership:
Runs on fear and survival.
Protects reputation before people.
Blames and shames instead of taking responsibility.
Creates leaders who are more reactive than responsive.
Keeps women stuck in roles that drain their life force instead of honoring their true design.
Frequency-based leadership:
Runs on presence, regulation, and alignment.
Centers people and relationships before performance metrics.
Owns responsibility with integrity instead of scapegoating.
Leads from coherence, not from chaos.
Empowers women to rise from their wholeness, not their wounds.
This isn’t just theory. We see the consequences playing out in real life — families suffering, institutions failing, women leaders being cast out and blamed.
The truth is: a system that forces leaders to deny their humanity will always create more harm than healing.
Women Are Rising
At the same time, we are living in an extraordinary moment in history.
Women are rising and stepping into more responsibility and leadership than ever before — and this is worth celebrating.
And as women rise, they also deserve support. Not because they’re lacking, but because their leadership matters too much to be shaped by outdated systems. With the right support, women can grow from their deepest truth and power, instead of being pulled back into old traps of overwork, control, and self-sacrifice.
Because there is nothing more beautiful, more powerful, than a woman who is deeply tapped into her true nature:
Leading with kindness and clarity.
Serving with a wide, open capacity to love.
Claiming the beauty and power of her heart as her greatest leadership gift.
Rooted in her body, not trapped in her mind.
Making decisions from inner alignment, not external pressure.
Holding presence that calms rather than chaos that overwhelms.
Creating safety through truth instead of control.
Honoring her cycles and energy instead of forcing herself into exhaustion.
Guiding others not by dominating, but by illuminating what’s possible.
Allowing her frequency to speak louder than any performance.
This is the leadership the world is waiting for.
A New Way Forward
What we need now is conscious leadership: leaders who know how to hold frequency, lead with integrity, and remember that leadership is not power over, but stewardship with.
This is why I do what I do.
Not to fix women.
Not to train them to play by the old rules.
But to help them reclaim the leadership that was always theirs — embodied, aligned, frequency-led.
Because when women lead from wholeness, everyone thrives: the children, the families, the communities, and the women themselves.
Reflection Prompts
Here are a few questions for you to sit with. The more honest you are with yourself, the more clarity you’ll gain:
Where in my leadership am I still leading from survival — from fear, control, or old conditioning — rather than from my truest frequency?
What support, practices, or structures would allow me to rise into leadership from wholeness instead of depletion?
How would my leadership — and the impact I create — transform if I let the beauty and power of my heart lead everything I do?
We are entering a new phase of leadership.
The old models — where women felt the need to prove, push, and people-please — are falling away. If we cling to them, they only create more resistance and struggle. We can't afford that anymore.
The background frequencies are calling us into a new paradigm — one where sovereignty, grace, and integrity replace force, performance, and exhaustion.
If you feel the tension between how you’ve been leading and how you know you’re meant to lead, this is your invitation.
Book a call with me, and together we’ll map out where you can create the most significant shift within yourself — so you can step into the leadership you are truly here to embody.
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