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Elin Skjelbred

The Journey to Wholeness

I was recently reading the book «Existential Kink» by Carolyn Elliott, where she talked about integrating the "Good" and "Bad" Self, and I got really inspired to link this to my work as a guide of The Gene Keys, and illuminate how embracing our shadows can lead to profound transformation.


By recognizing the power in our so-called "bad" parts, we unlock the potential to transmute them into our greatest gifts, ultimately guiding us towards our highest expression, the Siddhi.


This process of integration is not just about self-acceptance; it’s about stepping into our full potential as conscious leaders and fully embodied beings.


Because in our journeys of self-discovery, many of us find ourselves wrestling with the idea of being "good" or "bad." We are often taught to reject certain parts of ourselves that don't fit the mold of what society considers "good."


But what if true healing and wholeness come not from rejecting these parts, but from embracing them?


This idea of integration aligns beautifully with the teachings of the Gene Keys, where we explore the Shadow, the Gift, and the Siddhi within ourselves.


Each of these states represents a different frequency of expression, ranging from our deepest fears and insecurities to our highest potential.


The Shadow: The Rejected Self


In the Gene Keys, the Shadow represents the aspects of ourselves that we often try to hide or deny—the "bad" parts. These are the patterns, behaviors, and thoughts that we believe make us unworthy, unlovable, or flawed. Society, family, and our own conditioning push us to suppress these shadows, fearing that if they were revealed, we would be rejected or ostracized.


But the truth is, these shadows are not inherently "bad." They are simply lower expressions of energy, born out of fear, trauma, or misunderstanding. They exist to teach us, to point us towards areas of our lives where we are not fully aligned with our true nature. By acknowledging and embracing these shadows, we begin to heal. We start to see them not as enemies, but as guides leading us back to our authentic selves.


The Gift: The Balanced Self


When we have the courage to face our shadows, we unlock the potential for transformation. This is where the Gift emerges. The Gift is the higher expression of the same energy that manifests as the Shadow. It is the "good" that comes from integrating what we once considered "bad."


For example, a Shadow of fear might transform into the Gift of courage. A Shadow of doubt might become the Gift of discernment. In this way, the Gift is not a rejection of the Shadow, but rather its evolved state—a balanced, empowered expression of who we are.


By accepting our Shadows and working through them, we cultivate these Gifts. We step into a more authentic version of ourselves, one that is no longer divided between good and bad, but unified in wholeness.


The Siddhi: The Transcendent Self


Beyond the Gift lies the Siddhi, the highest expression of our potential—the state of true enlightenment. The Siddhi represents a transcendent state where dualities like good and bad dissolve completely. In this state, we are no longer bound by the limitations of the mind, but are living expressions of our divine nature.


In the Siddhi, there is no longer any need to integrate the "good" and "bad" because these concepts have ceased to exist. There is only pure, unconditioned being—a state of grace, peace, and infinite possibility.



As leaders, whether in our personal lives, businesses, or communities, our ability to integrate the "good" and "bad" within ourselves has a profound impact on those we lead. When we embrace our shadows and transform them into gifts, we lead from a place of authenticity and wholeness. We become examples of what it means to be fully human—flawed, yet perfect; broken, yet whole.


This is the essence of conscious leadership. It’s not about striving to be "good" or avoiding being "bad." It’s about embracing the totality of who we are and leading others to do the same. It’s about recognizing that our shadows hold the keys to our greatest potential and that by integrating these aspects of ourselves, we can lead with greater empathy, wisdom, and love.



The journey to wholeness is not about perfection, but about integration. It’s about bringing together the light and the dark, the good and the bad, and recognizing that both are essential parts of who we are. Through the lens of the Gene Keys, we see that our shadows are not something to be feared, but rather opportunities for growth. By embracing our shadows and transforming them into gifts, we move closer to the Siddhi—the state of true wholeness and healing.


In this way, we don’t just become better leaders—we become whole, healed, and fully alive. And in doing so, we inspire others to take the important leap on the same transformative journey.

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